Hey love, I’m Davina—think of this as us leaning back in our favorite spot with tea, having a judgment-free talk about self-pleasure and the magic of masturbation. Let’s make exploring your body feel calm, nurturing, and delightfully personal.
1. Why Masturbation Is More Than Just Fun
Let’s start with the good news: Masturbation isn’t just about orgasms—it boosts your mood, eases stress, and even helps you sleep better. Hormones like dopamine, oxytocin, and prolactin get released, gently reminding your brain that you matter, and that feeling good isn’t just a luxury—it’s a form of self-care.
And here’s something uplifting: According to a Cleveland Clinic study, women who masturbate often have higher self-esteem, better orgasms during partnered sex, and even more satisfaction in their relationships. It’s basically empathy with yourself, in motion.
2. Stress Relief Built Right In
Feeling anxious or overwhelmed? Masturbation can help regulate stress—especially clitoral stimulation. One recent study found that women often use self-pleasure as a coping strategy during stressful times.
Plus, a fascinating Menopause study found orgasm frequency stays steady across adulthood—about 81% of the time—so whether you’re in your 20s or exploring midlife, this joy is always an option.
3. How to Make It Cozy, Lovely, and You
Let’s make “me-time” feel like a ritual:
- Set the Scene: Find a private, warm space that feels safe. Light a candle, play a playlist, dress comfortably—or don’t.
- Really Slow Down: Start by breathing deeply and touching zones gently—neck, thighs, your whole body.
- Try ‘Edging’: Slow things down when you’re close to climax, pause, then resume—that tease can make the release even sweeter.
- Explore What Feels Good: It’s okay if it’s not extracting deep sensations from the start. Fantasize, experiment—sometimes even light touches or exploring erogenous spots outside genitals feel intensely pleasurable.
- Use Lube if You Want: A little slick can make the experience more enjoyable—especially for external or internal play.
4. Feelings, Not Just Mechanics
One huge truth: There’s no one right way to masturbate—only what feels good to you. Some days it’s clitoral stimulation, others a favorite toy, or even just intimate self-touch.
Dr. Sofia Jawed-Wessel (seriously wise wellness voice) reminds us: masturbation isn’t something wrong; it’s body literacy. Use it to learn what your pleasure language is, so you can better speak it in all parts of life.
5. Quick Self-Care Recap
- It’s totally normal—and healthy.
- It’s stress relief, sleep aid, and connection to yourself.
- Take your time to explore in a safe environment.
- Play with rhythm, touch, toys, and mood.
- It helps you understand and love your body more deeply.
Loving Closing Words from Davina
Self-pleasure isn’t selfish—it’s healing. It’s a chance to soften, honor, and delight in yourself. Whether you treat it as a whispered escape after a long day or a part of your weekly self-care ritual, you’re choosing you—and that feels powerful.
Want help discovering toys or building your own “self-pleasure playlist”? I’d be honored to craft that with you, one gentle step at a time.
Here’s to YOU—and the beautiful journey of feeling good, on your terms.