Hello again, it’s Davina—let’s pour our favorite cozy drink and gently explore a topic often whispered about: squirting. Think of this as your warm invitation to curiosity, not expectation.
What Is Squirting (and Is It the Same as Female Ejaculation)?
First, let’s clarify: Squirting generally refers to the release of a clear, watery fluid during arousal or orgasm. Studies suggest it comes mostly from the bladder, mixed with some natural secretions—not urine in the typical sense, but closely related.
Female ejaculation, on the other hand, involves a much smaller amount of milky fluid from the Skene’s glands (sometimes likened to a “female prostate”). They’re different phenomena, though people often use the terms interchangeably.
Is Squirting Common or Essential?
Research shows that squirting happens for some women—but not for everyone, and that’s completely normal. Only a small percentage experience it regularly. A lack of squirting doesn’t mean your pleasure is any less valid.
How Do People (Gently) Explore Squirting?
1. Cultivate comfort and calm.
Let your body unwind—relax, breathe, maybe light candles or play soft music. A jittery or tense mind makes this harder.
2. Combine clitoral and G-spot stimulation.
A gentle “come-hither” rub to your G-spot, plus consistent clitoral touch—often this blend unlocks deeper sensations.
3. Positions that ease access.
Try missionary with raised hips, or a gentle doggy-position angle. Find what feels natural for you.
4. Practice pelvic floor engagement.
Kegels or hip pressure techniques may help. Some find that stronger pelvic control guides the sensations more predictably.
5. Hydrate and breathe.
Some people find hydration helpful, though data is anecdotal. More importantly, conscious deep breathing allows you to stay present and compassionate with your body.
6. Let go of the “need.”
Squirting should never feel like a performance goal. It’s an experience—sometimes it unfolds, often it doesn’t, and either way, your pleasure remains real and rich.
A Few Things to Know
- Squirting doesn’t always coincide with orgasm—and that’s totally fine.
- Some folks feel a “bearing down” or fullness right before it happens—a unique, deep-level release sensation.
- It’s not a universal ability or marker of sexual prowess; many women enjoy fulfilling orgasms without squirting at all
Davina’s Gentle Wrap-Up
Squirting is mysterious, provocative, and deeply personal—like an unexpected waterfall that happens when everything aligns. But let me gently remind you: it’s an optional chapter, not the climax of your story.
Whether your body surprises you in that way or not, the way it responds is always your own, always valid, and always beautiful. I’m here, supporting every curiosity, every moment of tenderness with yourself.
Want help creating a calming ritual or G-spot-focused self-care flow? I’d love to build that with you whenever you’re ready.